Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior

emily_entropy — 13.01.2011 Ссылку потырила у ratri, большое ей спасибо.

Статья в Wall Street Journal о разнице в воспитании китайских и западных детей. Автор Эми Чуа, профессор Йельского университета, мать двух дочерей, и это отрывок из её книги "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother". Комментариев там уже набралось четыре тысячи.

"Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:
• attend a sleepover
• have a playdate
• be in a school play
• complain about not being in a school play
• watch TV or play computer games
• choose their own extracurricular activities
• get any grade less than an A
• not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama
• play any instrument other than the piano or violin
• not play the piano or violin."


"Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children and therefore override all of their children's own desires and preferences."

"For example, if a child comes home with an A-minus on a test, a Western parent will most likely praise the child. The Chinese mother will gasp in horror and ask what went wrong."

"That's why the solution to substandard performance is always to excoriate, punish and shame the child."

"I threatened her with no lunch, no dinner, no Christmas or Hanukkah presents, no birthday parties for two, three, four years. When she still kept playing it wrong, I told her she was purposely working herself into a frenzy because she was secretly afraid she couldn't do it. I told her to stop being lazy, cowardly, self-indulgent and pathetic."

"We worked right through dinner into the night, and I wouldn't let Lulu get up, not for water, not even to go to the bathroom. The house became a war zone, and I lost my voice yelling."

И так далее. Читается страшновато. Но меня зацепил вот этот момент:

"Chinese parents demand perfect grades because they believe that their child can get them."

"Once a child starts to excel at something—whether it's math, piano, pitching or ballet—he or she gets praise, admiration and satisfaction. This builds confidence and makes the once not-fun activity fun. "

Я себе в жизни не пожелаю китайского детства. Но вот от навыка "делать до победного конца, потому что я верю, что у меня всё получится, не может не получиться" я бы честно не отказалась. Мне его сейчас очень не хватает. :)

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